Learn better communication skills
In school we were taught many things: how to write, how to count, how to spell words but I dont remember a class on relationship communication. Learning how to effectively communicate with your spouse is extremely important. It is something that we really have to work on for most of us it doesnt come naturally. I suggest you read books, listen to podcasts, go to conferences anything you can do to improve yourself on both sides of the communication process, better listening and better speaking, so your mate will understand you.