The first few years may be easy, splitting or alternating holidays between your family and your spouses. When kids enter the picture, though, your presence will become more sought after by the grandparents. Will you want huge extended family gatherings that may require travel? Or would you rather establish quiet holidays at your own home? Do you need snow underfoot, or does a bright Hawaiian Christmas Day sound just as nice? Now s the time to think ahead about what traditions you did like to maintain or establish.